What do you do?

Our lives have been turned upside down these last three weeks. Death, funeral, and birthdays. A sweet 16, a 5th birthday, and a 3rd birthday all in a matter of weeks back to back. I wish life would go back to close to normal not forgetting Seth but having a little peace, either going to the store and getting the items on the list by me, or buying my prom dress, maybe just cleaning up the house it doesn't make sense to be in grief but living in a mess. The other day we went to Seth grave. One thing my mom keeps saying is what do you do when you go his grave? Honestly what do you do? Do you talk to his shell? Because that's not him thats just the shell he uses to live in. Do you pray? Do you use it as your time to talk to god? What do you do? I wish I could have the answers that I have been looking for. The what do you dos. My mom is having a hard time going to the cemetery. We even talked about maybe it should be my job to make sure everything looks like it should. Giving him flowers and making sure it's all the way it should be. I feel so lost on what to do for Seth. Do you do something there? Maybe we should plant flowers at our house and get a stone that says something sweet and heart felt. We haven't taken him flowers and so when we went the other day I was trying to save the 'yellow' Lilly's they were is Easter flowers that me and Sarah took to him Thursday and for them to still be alive in amazing. I wish we could being him more then that. Maybe a windmill. Or and little duckie. What do you take to a baby's grave. Anything? Nothing? Something?